Category Archives: Frustration

Four Horsemen of the (relationship) Apocalypse

Some time ago I ran across a thing about Gottman’s (http://www.gottman.com/about-us-2/dr-john-gottman/) predictors of divorce. It was very interesting to me because Dr. Gottman has been doing what he’s doing for a very long time. When I was in school many … Continue reading

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Agency and Behavioral Health

Pretty dry sounding title, right? Well, sometimes things are just like that. But let me just make a short explanation. In this case, agency refers to the idea that a person is, or can be, an agent in life. An … Continue reading

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Your Self-Concept Is Out of Date

For those of you who follow this blog, bless you. I have been quite busy, but have a backlog of topics that I hope to discuss. One really interesting one is a somewhat technical article on the difference between grief, … Continue reading

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Let’s talk about our relationship (some more)

Let’s face it: sometimes things have gone from bad to worse. Do we just quit, find someone new & start over, or try to save this one? Tough judgment call. Here’s some food for thought from some other sources> http://speakingofmarriage.com/2014/04/27/surviving-infidelity-a-step-by-step-guide-to-healing/Continue reading

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A Simple Way to Help Any Discussion

This is so simple, you’ll laugh. But simple doesn’t mean easy. It’s something you can do without needing cooperation from the other person. You can do it whether it’s a friendly conversation or a vicious argument. Ready? Don’t interrupt. When … Continue reading

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When Therapists Dream

Bob Newhart demonstrates a dramatic form of brief therapy: Seriously, folks, sometimes a therapist will give “a directive,” otherwise known as telling a client what to do. But some therapists’ training is to┬ánever give a directive of any kind. When … Continue reading

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Bits ‘n’ Pieces: Cussing and Jealousy

Sometimes I wish I had become a behavioral science researcher rather than a clinician. Here’s an example why. In a psychological study, volunteers were asked to hold a hand in a bucket of ice water for as long as they … Continue reading

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