Category Archives: fighting

Save That Relationship!

Posted on October 3, 2017 by jamesmatter

Just took a quick peek at a piece from https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_to_do_when_you_hate_the_one_you_love?utm_source=Greater+Good+Science+Center&utm_campaign=9536544767-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2017_07_12&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_5ae73e326e-9536544767-51254567 and wanted to excerpt  my favorite part, as follows: So how do you increase understanding during conflict? Here are seven suggestions for how to think and act to do so. … Continue reading →

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Learning How to Argue

Posted on October 26, 2014 by jamesmatter

Healthy boundaries help, but that’s not all it takes to keep a relationship healthy. You need to be able to fight fair, and you have to be able to argue successfully. There are a lot of possible ways to fight … Continue reading →

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Let’s talk about our relationship (some more)

Posted on September 6, 2014 by jamesmatter

Let’s face it: sometimes things have gone from bad to worse. Do we just quit, find someone new & start over, or try to save this one? Tough judgment call. Here’s some food for thought from some other sources> http://speakingofmarriage.com/2014/04/27/surviving-infidelity-a-step-by-step-guide-to-healing/ … Continue reading →

Posted in arguing, betrayal, choices, Couples and relationships, fighting, Frustration, infidelity, mental health, reconciliation, Renewal, Therapy processes | 2 Comments

A Simple Way to Help Any Discussion

Posted on August 7, 2014 by jamesmatter

This is so simple, you’ll laugh. But simple doesn’t mean easy. It’s something you can do without needing cooperation from the other person. You can do it whether it’s a friendly conversation or a vicious argument. Ready? Don’t interrupt. When … Continue reading →

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Let’s Talk About Our Relationship– Or Not

Posted on August 1, 2014 by jamesmatter

I hope any professional colleagues who might read this will afford me a moment of slightly lowered professional aplomb. I recently met with a couple who are trying to heal their relationship after a series of setbacks. Needless to say, … Continue reading →

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