Category Archives: Feelings

Seeking Safety– You Are Not Alone

Posted on October 28, 2016 by

  Seeking Safety is a manual driven treatment for PTSD and addiction, developed by Dr. Lisa Najavits. It was originally designed for use with all female groups, but has since been used with a wide variety of different populations. Over … Continue reading →

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Self Pity versus Self Mourning

Posted on April 15, 2016 by

Just a quick thought & a question– what is the difference between feeling sad about something bad in your life, and feeling self-pity? This came up recently in a session, where a client worried about sinking into self-pity. this is … Continue reading →

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Four Horsemen of the (relationship) Apocalypse

Posted on September 14, 2015 by

Some time ago I ran across a thing about Gottman’s (http://www.gottman.com/about-us-2/dr-john-gottman/) predictors of divorce. It was very interesting to me because Dr. Gottman has been doing what he’s doing for a very long time. When I was in school many … Continue reading →

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Can We Talk?

Posted on June 4, 2015 by

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” According to Wikipedia, this quote, most commonly attributed to John Lennon, goes back to a (then) famous cartoonist in 1957. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beautiful_Boy_%28Darling_Boy%29 As time has passed, I’ve been conscious … Continue reading →

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Luxury Problems? Compared to What?

Posted on March 8, 2015 by

People who have been exposed to the world of AA & other 12-step programs will be familiar with these phrases. Let’s focus on the first one first. Frequently, someone who is relatively new to recovery will start talking about how … Continue reading →

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Your Self-Concept Is Out of Date

Posted on January 28, 2015 by

For those of you who follow this blog, bless you. I have been quite busy, but have a backlog of topics that I hope to discuss. One really interesting one is a somewhat technical article on the difference between grief, … Continue reading →

Posted in behavioral health, change, cognitive therapy, dealing with change, Depression, Distress tolerance, Emotions, Feelings, Frustration, handling the unexpected, Learning, mental health, Recovery, Sadness | Leave a comment

Learning How to Argue

Posted on October 26, 2014 by

Healthy boundaries help, but that’s not all it takes to keep a relationship healthy. You need to be able to fight fair, and you have to be able to argue successfully. There are a lot of possible ways to fight … Continue reading →

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