Category Archives: Feelings

Seeking Safety– You Are Not Alone

  Seeking Safety is a manual driven treatment for PTSD and addiction, developed by Dr. Lisa Najavits. It was originally designed for use with all female groups, but has since been used with a wide variety of different populations. Over … Continue reading

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Self Pity versus Self Mourning

Just a quick thought & a question– what is the difference between feeling sad about something bad in your life, and feeling self-pity? This came up recently in a session, where a client worried about sinking into self-pity. this is … Continue reading

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Four Horsemen of the (relationship) Apocalypse

Some time ago I ran across a thing about Gottman’s (http://www.gottman.com/about-us-2/dr-john-gottman/) predictors of divorce. It was very interesting to me because Dr. Gottman has been doing what he’s doing for a very long time. When I was in school many … Continue reading

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Can We Talk?

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” According to Wikipedia, this quote, most commonly attributed to John Lennon, goes back to a (then) famous cartoonist in 1957. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beautiful_Boy_%28Darling_Boy%29 As time has passed, I’ve been conscious … Continue reading

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Luxury Problems? Compared to What?

People who have been exposed to the world of AA & other 12-step programs will be familiar with these phrases. Let’s focus on the first one first. Frequently, someone who is relatively new to recovery will start talking about how … Continue reading

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Your Self-Concept Is Out of Date

For those of you who follow this blog, bless you. I have been quite busy, but have a backlog of topics that I hope to discuss. One really interesting one is a somewhat technical article on the difference between grief, … Continue reading

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Learning How to Argue

Healthy boundaries help, but that’s not all it takes to keep a relationship healthy. You need to be able to fight fair, and you have to be able to argue successfully. There are a lot of possible ways to fight … Continue reading

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