Category Archives: Couple communication

Four Horsemen of the (relationship) Apocalypse

Some time ago I ran across a thing about Gottman’s (http://www.gottman.com/about-us-2/dr-john-gottman/) predictors of divorce. It was very interesting to me because Dr. Gottman has been doing what he’s doing for a very long time. When I was in school many … Continue reading

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Listening

Too often, listening consists of trying to remember one’s witty remark while waiting for the other person to finish whatever it is that they’re saying. One’s therapist should be a trained listener, A person who is not just waiting for you … Continue reading

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Learning How to Argue

Healthy boundaries help, but that’s not all it takes to keep a relationship healthy. You need to be able to fight fair, and you have to be able to argue successfully. There are a lot of possible ways to fight … Continue reading

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A Simple Way to Help Any Discussion

This is so simple, you’ll laugh. But simple doesn’t mean easy. It’s something you can do without needing cooperation from the other person. You can do it whether it’s a friendly conversation or a vicious argument. Ready? Don’t interrupt. When … Continue reading

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Let’s Talk About Our Relationship– Or Not

I hope any professional colleagues who might read this will afford me a moment of slightly lowered professional aplomb. I recently met with a couple who are trying to heal their relationship after a series of setbacks. Needless to say, … Continue reading

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Our Relationship Part IV

You’ve probably heard of active listening. Well, how often do we really use it? Rarely, because the communication process usually goes by a series of (usually accurate) leaps and guesses. But when the leaps start going off on tangents, and the … Continue reading

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