Category Archives: belongingness

Not New Content– But..

Posted on March 20, 2017 by jamesmatter

Perhaps a clue as to how to be content… http://www.npr.org/sections/13.7/2017/03/20/520803361/is-happiness-a-universal-human-right

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Seeking Safety– You Are Not Alone

Posted on October 28, 2016 by jamesmatter

  Seeking Safety is a manual driven treatment for PTSD and addiction, developed by Dr. Lisa Najavits. It was originally designed for use with all female groups, but has since been used with a wide variety of different populations. Over … Continue reading →

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Four Horsemen of the (relationship) Apocalypse

Posted on September 14, 2015 by jamesmatter

Some time ago I ran across a thing about Gottman’s (http://www.gottman.com/about-us-2/dr-john-gottman/) predictors of divorce. It was very interesting to me because Dr. Gottman has been doing what he’s doing for a very long time. When I was in school many … Continue reading →

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Two Days of Terror, Seventy Years of Hope

Posted on August 3, 2015 by jamesmatter

This is the time of year when I tend to meditate on two dates: August 6, and August 9, 1945.  August 6 represents the beginning of the age of atomic warfare– the day that a plutonium bomb was dropped on … Continue reading →

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Does Facebooking Depress You?

Posted on February 4, 2015 by jamesmatter

NPR just reported a study on the topic: http://www.npr.org/blogs/alltechconsidered/2015/02/04/383775091/does-facebook-cause-depression-depends-on-how-you-use-it I’m still really busy & haven’t had time to work on stuff, but couldn’t pass up passing this one along.

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Learning How to Argue

Posted on October 26, 2014 by jamesmatter

Healthy boundaries help, but that’s not all it takes to keep a relationship healthy. You need to be able to fight fair, and you have to be able to argue successfully. There are a lot of possible ways to fight … Continue reading →

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Spiritual Atheists

Posted on August 22, 2014 by jamesmatter

If you follow the buzz in certain circles, you’ve been hearing about various psychotherapeutic practitioners getting on board the spirituality bandwagon. This is, in some ways, amusing. Carl Jung was all over the spiritual side of things from the beginning, … Continue reading →

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I Don’t Want to Always Be Happy…

Posted on April 1, 2014 by jamesmatter

Long ago, before I ever had an idea to get into my current occupation, I read a folk story in an anthology. It was somewhere around middle school, and the stories were geared at that level– simple and straightforward. I … Continue reading →

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Even If You Could Get a Sanity Transplant…

Posted on March 20, 2014 by jamesmatter

There would be a shortage of donors. I love doing group therapy. The things that groups come up with are so great. I’ll take some time at a later date to write about group therapy and its benefits, but one … Continue reading →

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Staying Married

Posted on October 23, 2013 by jamesmatter

http://www.salon.com/2013/10/13/the_9_smartest_marriage_tips_ever/?source=newsletter I would suggest that the article also tells you how to treat someone you’re dating if you think you might want to marry them. The language is somewhat heterosexist, but I think the tips apply, for the most part, … Continue reading →

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