Author Archives: jamesmatter

About jamesmatter

Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) in private practice in San Francisco. I work with adults, adolescents, and couples, with focus on substance use and abuse and co-occurring disorders (having both a mental illness and an addiction).

When Happiness Is Bad For You

  I’m still short on time for original content creation, but couldn’t pass up this item from the Center for Greater Good. It reminds me of a folk story I read in a collection once upon a time, long ago … Continue reading

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Not New Content– But..

Perhaps a clue as to how to be content… http://www.npr.org/sections/13.7/2017/03/20/520803361/is-happiness-a-universal-human-right

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Love After Love

Ran across a poem from one of my favorite poets: Love After Love The time will come when, with elation you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror and each will smile at the other’s … Continue reading

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Fake News, Creativity, Fact Checking, Happiness

If I am someone with depression, I may go to a cognitive therapist. The cognitive therapist will then coach me on identifying my cognitive distortions, like all/nothing thinking, fortune-telling, discounting, labeling, over-generalization, and so on. The handbook for this is … Continue reading

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Mixed Feelings

http://www.npr.org/2017/02/02/513126985/house-votes-to-overturn-obama-rule-restricting-gun-sales-to-mentally-ill On one hand, it would be nice if we could get away from stigmatizing people with mental illness. On the other hand, https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/news/magazine/guns-and-suicide/ gun suicides outnumber gun homicides two to one.

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“I Wish I Wasn’t So Good at This”

This is just a quick meditation on recovery– or coping– or whatever name you want to give it. Happy New Year, by the way. For many of us, including folks who don’t necessarily carry a DSM 5 label, life is … Continue reading

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Depression Forever?

Imagine (or recall) yourself as a second grader. It’s a Friday afternoon in May, and the weather is beautiful. After school is out, you will get to play late outside, and you have the whole weekend ahead of you. But … Continue reading

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