Monthly Archives: September 2015

Treat Your Spouse Like a Stranger

I have sometimes instructed partners in a couple to treat each other as though they didn’t know each other. It turns out, this is actually (now) an evidence-based strategy: http://www.npr.org/2015/09/22/442441822/the-hidden-brain-how-miscommunications-happen the study pointed up the fact that when we know … Continue reading

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Four Horsemen of the (relationship) Apocalypse

Some time ago I ran across a thing about Gottman’s (http://www.gottman.com/about-us-2/dr-john-gottman/) predictors of divorce. It was very interesting to me because Dr. Gottman has been doing what he’s doing for a very long time. When I was in school many … Continue reading

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