A Simple Way to Help Any Discussion

This is so simple, you’ll laugh. But simple doesn’t mean easy. It’s something you can do without needing cooperation from the other person. You can do it whether it’s a friendly conversation or a vicious argument. Ready?

Don’t interrupt.

When everything’s fine, we can excitedly talk over each other with no problem. But if things start to go downhill, it’s time to take steps. Make sure that only one person at a time talks.

So how is this something you can do with no cooperation? If the other person interrupts you, stop talking. Listen, don’t just wait for them to stop in order to start up again. If you find yourself impatient to talk and the other person won’t stop, that’s harder– but wait for them to run down. Also, don’t interrupt nonverbally by rolling your eyes, giving out dramatic sighs, etc.

I didn’t say it was easy.


About jamesmatter

Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) in private practice in San Francisco. I work with adults, adolescents, and couples, with focus on substance use and abuse and co-occurring disorders (having both a mental illness and an addiction).
This entry was posted in arguing, choices, Couple communication, Couples and relationships, Distress tolerance, Emotions, Feelings, fighting, Frustration, mental health, Recovery, Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink.

1 Response to A Simple Way to Help Any Discussion

  1. istralouise says:

    Very interesting and useful post. Thank you, james!

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